My Life Rules #3: When You Don’t Know What to Do, Do Nothing

by phoenixortheflame

Now, I’m sure you’ve all figured it out, but if not, I’m going to make this whole My Life Rules thing a bit clearer: this series is not about me preaching to you about how to live your life. Sure, I’ve come up with some simple rules that, in my experience, have made my life more tolerable and actually quite enjoyable, but also I’m sharing these rules with you as I work through my own challenges.

Of which I have a lot.

But like Watsky says (sorry, for the obscure white paper reference), “Nothin’ gory means no glory.” I take it to heart.

And because I’m human and I don’t have all the answers (or even, like, half of them), I’ve even created a rule that allows me to be okay with not knowing.

Rule #3: When You Don’t Know What to Do, Do Nothing!

Hey, so remember when I told you guys to listen to your gut? Well, I don’t know about y’all, but sometimes my brain is so goddamn bombarded with thoughts that for the life of me, no matter how hard I try and listen, my gut is not getting a word in edgewise.

Like right now, for example, I feel like I have the entire cast of Glee in my head. Wait, more angsty than Glee … Hells Kitchen? Yeah, that’s about right. Gordon Ramsay is in my head, telling me the bloody scallops are cold. Yes, chef!

I really wish it was the cast of Community though–they’re so kooky!

I’m getting sidetracked (oh come on, you like it).

Okay, so when I feel like this, you can probably guess that my sole desire is to stop the anxiety. And often I think that if I do something, meaning take some sort of action, that will help.

No, no, Amy, that will likely just make things worse. And why is that? Well, it probably has something to do with the fact that when a person is “on edge” they tend to not be as, err, sane.

So, what am I trying to do now when I can’t hear my gut is absolutely nothing. No rash decisions, no jumping to conclusions–just living through the discomfort and reminding myself that “this too shall pass.”

Eventually, my mind does settle down, allowing me some much needed quiet time with my intuition. And often, when my mind has been on overdrive like that, what my gut eventually tells me is something I really don’t want to hear. That is, I’ve got to do something I really don’t want to do but know is the right thing.

It sucks.

But all I can do is trust in the process, and that one day the shitty things will all make sense.

Are you guilty of acting when your emotions are out of control? Is the outcome ever positive? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this, because sometimes I think acting in a high emotional state is a good thing … It’s just hard to know when that might be.